AtS S5, Snow...and Parenting

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I can't beleieve it's been well over a week since I updated! 

My AtS S5 DVDs came yesterday.  I've listened to the commentary on Conviction and watched Just Rewards so far.  I actually thought Spike looked and sounded much better than I remembered.  It made perfect sense to me that the first thing he'd do is try to hit Angel.  After all, the last time he'd seen Angel (in his own memory) was a couple of days before, kissing his girl!  I loved the Angel/Spike dynamic (slash aside, hee!) on AtS S5.

It's snowing here today.  I hate snow.  To be honest, I don't actually hate it, but it makes things so much more difficult for K.  Have you ever tried getting a wheelchair through snow?  Not easy, let me tell you!   I'm worried because the weather is getting worse, and K will be on her way home in the school bus at the moment.  The joys of parenthood!  Talking of parenthood...

 

I hate it when people think they can judge other people on their parenting skills.  Yes, there are bad parents, but sometimes there are reasons why routines can't be kept, or children are misbehaving.  As a parent of a child with special needs, it annoys me no end when people sit in judgement of me.  And I know they have.  But I'd like to see them do better.  If they'd had to cope with some of the things I've had to, they might be a bit more understanding.  There are issues that I've never talked about here...and I'm not likely to.  They're too personal and too damn painful.  It's bloody hard work!  I do my best and that's all I can do.  I'm not perfect.  I've probably made some bad decisions.  But when you've got a child with complex needs, all of the rules go out the window.  You have to adapt your lifestyle to accommodate the needs of your child.  You have to do things that you might not have done otherwise.  But you can't beat yourself up about it. 

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Comments

[raelee.livejournal.com]

Hey! Good point about why Spike hit Angel. I didn't even think about the fact that Spike wouldn't realize the passage of time and would have that kiss fresh in his mind.

I haven't watched the commentary on those two episodes yet. I watched it on... hmm, I guess only on A Hole in the World and Not Fade Away. I will have to go back and rewatch those. I liked the commentary on AHitW but I think it will anger the people who are still raw over losing Fred. Joss is very unapologetic in his decision to kill off Fred and he, Amy, and Alexis ... well, it's hard to explain but I think it will anger anyone who doesn't agree with that plotline. *shrugs*

Personally? I enjoyed it. I like listening to Joss' commentary on stuff.

{{Cal}} Don't listen to anyone who criticizes your parenting, love. What do they know anyway? Hmmm?

[lurker-jo.livejournal.com]

You tell 'em, sister! Life is what happens when you're making other plans... and the plans get tossed out the window, because the baby isn't following the bathwater.

Okay, so there's something wonks with that metaphor, but you get my drift? We all have ideal "rules" in our heads, for parenting and Life-in-General, but in RL we can't always follow them.

[So says the "sweet maiden aunt with no children". *g*]

*hugs and lovies*

[cara-leigh9.livejournal.com]

Nothing irritates me more (okay, there are some other things) than someone telling me how to raise my children. If I ask for an opinion, fine, but if they just start telling me everything I'm doing wrong? Arrg!

I do have a "friend" who, along with her husband, are teachers at school. They have a daughter the same age as Jordan and for a while there, they loved telling me about how horrible and flirty she was and everything thing she did wrong. They would do this in front of whoever was standing around. Then they would say "We would NEVER allow Amber to....blah blah blah" Made me crazy. They have seemed to stop that, though.

Just tell whoever is criticizing you to go screw themselves. LOL

{{Cal}}

[elisi]

Everyone has got S5 on dvd... except me! *sniff* I do have all the episodes on video though, so it could be worse!

And snow is very awkward - personally I think spring can't come quick enough.

Parenting depends as much upon the children as upon the parents - some children are naturally awkward and even the sweetest parents have a hard time with them. (My husband is one of 5 siblings and they're all as different as can be!)

[curiouswombat.livejournal.com]

An older nurse, with grown up children, told me when I was pregnant that parenting is more of an art than a science as there are no set rules. She also said that she often told her daughter when she was small that they'd both have to learn how they were meant to do it together, as the daughter, unlike her vest, didn't come with a little 'care' label stitched to the back of her neck!

If it works for you and K. it's good parenting - don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

[spikeylover.livejournal.com]

Those DVD's are wonderful. Fury's DESTINY commentary about Spike is worth the price of the thing alone. I never thought I'd see the day.